Entry 29: Happy Bday

Francesca Bertagnolli

Hmmm. What words could I use to describe her?

Comical

Compassionate

Internal Strength

Smart

Caring

Hard-headed

She is someone who will drop everything in order to help another person. She gives her time, effort, and money into relationships, which makes her a generous person.

She always brings comedy into whatever situation we are in; if Sam and I are fighting, she’ll bring up something we all used to do together to make us laugh. Or when I was in the hospital she came and visited me almost every day and we would watch Jerry Springer, Maury and People’s Court…. Which are all freakin hilarious. But those are real people’s lives so… yeah okay back to Franny. The night I OD’d she met us at the hospital and was making me laugh the whole time, doing her little twirls and random dance stuff.

She is the scapegoat in our family and I feel so bad. Yeah when I was a mean, uncomfortable in my skin, angry teenager I would blame everything on her, and because of certain preceding situations I would be the one they believed. OR nowadays all three of the young ones who live at home will berate and bully her. They are merciless when it comes to ganging up on someone; and she handles it with such grace. When our mother doesn’t do anything about the situation, or she just agrees with the kids saying something like, “Well Franny you did do this,” or that or the other thing.

She handles it with so much grace. Yeah there are times when it all just gets too much and she explodes, but right then they all just run right back into it saying things like, “Jeez take a chill pill,” or anything else. (I can’t think off the top of my head right now)

She takes the scapegoat position, whether she likes it or not and she finds a way to live with it. IT IS HORRIBLE that the other people at mom’s house do that. But they are NEVER going to change; so Franny has adapted, and changed into a woman who can stick up for herself; she has thick skin and is internally strong.

She’s very smart! She recently made the decision to go back to school to get her Bachelor’s in Social Work and she has been doing good financially and has been making strong choices on where and how to spend it, or where and how to save it.

She cares about others a lot as well. That’s the name of the game for her. She always treats others how she so desperately needs them to treat her.

But sometimes she will have phases where she will rebel and not listen to anyone.. lol it can either be really funny or really worrisome.

Anyways over the years we have done a lot of things together, with me being the brat. But we have traveled the world together, rode rides together, flew on planes together, drove to school together, broke her first car together… (I’m still sorry about that)… gone on dates together with all of her weird boyfriends. Well, it would always be Franny, weird new boyfriend, Kassie and I. Some of those guys were creepy.

She has watched me grow since I was a baby and been with me through all of my awkward stages. My cowboy stage, broken arm stage, boy stage, sad stages, presidential stages, leading stages, captain stages, and back to awkward stages. I am a weird child.

Thank you for everything you have taught me over the years, chesca. ;)

How to be strong

How to fight for yourself

How to overcome adversities

How to overcome haters

How to be brave

How to stand on your own two feet

How to see the comedy in bad situations

OR just how to see the comedy in every day life

How to gracefully behave around invalids (in-va-lids)

How to stay strong in your faith

How to love someone with everything you are even though you know they don’t love you back

How to wait for someone, because you knew that the real Jules would come back someday

You just had to keep loving me from afar and wishing for the best and praying that I would come back. Lol here I am J

You’ve taught me to be independent, to make a life for yourself and only yourself; to chase your dreams and follow your heart.

But most importantly, you’ve taught me that the love between sisters is the strongest love there is; because you hate each other, but you also love each other. Yeah there will be times when the hate comes out more, but there will always be that love, and soon enough the love with shine out and you will have your sister back again.

Thank you for waiting for me! I wish the best for you on #22. Don’t get too cray tonight you probs work in the morning.

Love you,

Jules